An Exercise in Gratitude and Intimacy

The new year is almost here! While it is important to be thankful in all circumstances, all year round, it can be so easy to lose sight of the good in our lives because of how busy we are, especially during the holiday season. One one hand, holidays like Thanksgiving can be a great reminder to be thankful, but other times, we get wrapped up in preparing meals or hosting parties. It’s times like these where we need to be deliberate about our gratitude.

Almost a year ago, my boyfriend told me that he wanted to share with me more. This resulted in a daily activity that we have been faithfully doing together. He suggested that at the end of every day, we tell each other one thing that made us happy. It could be something as small as having nice weather, or something as big as celebrating a milestone. To further the impact of the tradition, I suggested that we write down what made each other happy each day, and at the end of the year, we would read them to each other.

The nice thing about this activity is that it can be done both alone or with someone else, whether it be a significant other, friend, family member, or whoever you want. If you choose to do this activity with someone else, it will surely get you talking, and by the end of the year, you’ll learn more about what brings them the most joy in their life and what is truly important to them. This is a great way to both draw closer to somebody and make you more aware about what makes you happy personally. Sometimes, life gets so busy that we forget to do things we love and look at the positives. Try this out and see if it helps you be a little more grateful and happier in the midst of wherever you may be.

 

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Count Your Blessings

About a week ago, many Americans sat around the dinner table with their families and a giant meal, and shared what they were thankful for. Thanksgiving is a holiday that gets observed one day a year but who says that we need to follow the calendar? Whether you are American, Panamanian, French, Polish, or just human, you can and should take a little bit of time out of your day to be thankful for something.

Many have suggested that a good remedy for discouragement and unhappiness is meditating on what we are thankful for. How many times do we hear that advice and actually put it into practice? I have started doing this, making a mental list of the things I am grateful for. I start with what is the most important to me, things I should not take for granted such as:

  • the environment I grew up in
  • the fact I still have all my grandparents and that my parents are still together after 30 years
  • that I can see, hear, walk, run, and do many daily things without a problem

Then, I gradually ease into material things that are still nice, but should not dominate my life such as:

  • going to my dream school
  • being able to travel throughout Europe
  • having a significant other

When you really think about it, you would be surprised how quickly you can form your list and how long it can go. Everyone’s list will be a little bit different, but I encourage you, the readers, to start thinking of a list of things you are thankful for and see how you start to feel after forming a habit out of this.